- Most feng shui practitioners spend a lot of time on the bed and bedroom because it’s where you spend about one third of your life. They know that if they can make your bed safe, nurturing, health-enhancing, and passion-building, their job is at least one third complete! So, what can you do to help yourself? You can choose the best bed, and then place it in the best possible position within the room.
- If you know the story of Goldilocks and the three bears, you’ve got a good start on where we’re headed with regard to making good feng shui choices. You want a bed that’s not too big, not too small, but just right. You also want a few other things as well — like a bed that doesn’t conduct electricity, emit electromagnetic fields, or make you feel vulnerable. So, with that said, here’s the low down on beds.
- Let’s begin with bed material choice and go from there.
- Bed Materials: As far as bed materials go, a wooden bed is the better choice (versus a metal or a waterbed) because it is less likely to conduct electrical fields. Electrical fields can come from the wall behind the bed, wiring in the floor, anything plugged in near the bed like a clock or a lamp, etc. In a nutshell, if there’s something plugged in or around your bed (or it is your bed that is plugged in) you have the potential of sleeping in invisible fields that human bodies find unhealthy. Electrical fields disrupt sleep and have been linked to health challenges like fibromyalgia, etc. If you do have a water bed, unplug the heater unit at least (use an egg crate type insulator to separate yourself from the coolness.) If you use a heating blanket, stop — or heat up the bed and then unplug it before you get in. If you have any sleep disorder, you may want to get your bedroom/home tested to see if there are any additional fields creating this unhealthy condition that you are not aware of. Perhaps the home’s circuit is just outside on the other side of the wall from the bedroom and is throwing e-fields into the room. If you do have a metal bed and don’t want to replace it, get it tested for emf fields. An esoteric feng shui solution for having so much metal element around you while sleeping is to tie red ribbons/bows around each of the four legs of the bed.
- Bed Size: If bed is “too big” it may portend to intimacy challenges. The traditional suggestion for marriage trouble is to get a smaller bed. But I’m not sure when that rule was invented there were such humongous bedrooms as there are today! Often a queen size bed seems out of proportion in the room — it loses it’s strength and is dwarfed by other furnishings. If you sleep well, and your intimate relationship is fine, then perhaps take a look at ways to create a smaller, more intimate feeling within the room. This can be done by adding darker, warmer colors, thicker, softer textures and fabrics, lower lighting, and reduced exterior views. If you have a “California King” bed, with the two box springs underneath one mattress, you may psychologically feel like “you are sleeping in two different beds” with your spouse or significant other. If this is the case, pull off the mattress and place a red fitted sheet over the two box springs to hook them together as well as “stop the dividing energies.” (The color red can stop energy according to the feng shui rule book.)
- Bed Style: Bunk beds, from a feng shui point of view, aren’t great for either the upper or the lower bunk mate. Both are forced into subservient positions by having to hunch over to get out of bed because of the low overhead. The energy of this bed is squished – and may make the user feel the same way. If you must have this type of bed, cover the slats under the overhead bed with fabric so the lower bunk mate sees the fabric instead of the wooden slats overhead. Choose a fabric that creates the illusion of headroom, like one with stars, clouds, or celestial scenes on it. Trundle beds are a better choice over bunk beds if space saving is the goal. Use earth element (earth tones, symbols of earth like a mountain or stones, etc.) around the bed with wheels on it if the person sleeping there feels ungrounded. Regular twin beds are fine.
- Bed Location: Bed positions is critical from a feng shui perspective. It makes a huge difference in the quality of life for the person who sleeps there. If a person continually sleeps in a weak position, situations like loss of respect, ill health, and a host of other unpleasant outcomes. The ultimate position for a bed is to have the person sleeping in the bed able to see who’s coming into the room, have a solid wall behind their heads, and not be in line with any doors coming into the room.
- Here’s a quick rundown on headboard positions: The best headboard position is up against a solid wall with no windows or doors along that wall. The people in bed have a clear view to the door, but are not in line with it. A slightly weaker bed position is a strong headboard up against a solid wall, with perhaps, a window or windows along that headboard wall to the sides of the bed. Weaker than that is a bed with it’s headboard up against the same wall as the bedroom door. In this position you cannot see who’s coming into the room without siting up and turning your head around. If you’ve got your bed in this position, you’re vulnerable to potential dis-respect, bullying, etc. And weaker than that is a window directly above the headboard. You are definitely vulnerable and weakened by this position. One step weaker than this actually is to have a headboard-less bed with the head zone up against a window. A headboard placed at a forty-five degree angle in the corner of a room is fine as long as it has solid walls behind it in that corner. I find that using a solid headboard is beneficial when using this forty-five degree position. It keeps you from feeling exposed at your head because of the triangle of space between the headboard and the wall that this forty-five degree position creates. Fill in that open space with something (a table of some sort?) to make it feel more solid at the head for sure if you don’t have a headboard.
- Solutions for Weak Bed Positions: If you have a situation where your bed cannot be placed in a great position, cure it. If your bed is in line with the door, hang a crystal somewhere between the bed and the door to disperse the fast chi. That would be a leaded glass crystal as opposed to a natural quartz one by the way. If you have a window at the head of your bed, you could either hang a crystal to disperse the harsh energy heading your way, or place a line of red (tape, paint, whatever) across the window frame, molding, or behind the curtain rod or valance with the intention of stopping the chi from crossing through the window. If your headboard is along the same wall as the bedroom door, then put yourself back in a powerful position by placing a mirror on the other side of the room from the bed, so you can see a reflection of the door in it while you are lying in bed. What’s reflected in the mirror is energetically equal to the real thing. With the mirror you now you have “the door in front of you.”
- The least favorable position to put a bed is if your feet are in line with, or facing the bedroom door while sleeping. In feng shui, it’s called the “death position.” Try choosing one of the other weak positions over this one if you can. If you can’t, then add a trunk, bench, or other piece of furniture at the foot of the bed for a bit more protection. Place red soft storage items in the trunk to give you that red “energy stopping line” between the bed and the door. If you have no room for furniture at the foot, simply apply red tape along the bottom of the bed with the intention of stopping the chi from crossing the bed. Remember, you can hide cures. I’d also hang a crystal between the bed and door for extra measure in this position. I have effectively used a dashed red line on sub flooring in homes that were being renovated or built. Yes, the cure is hidden under the floor!
- Sweet dreams! I hope you find these feng shui tips helpful in creating a safe and empowering environment for you.
- Here is a video I did some time ago that helps describe lots of options on how to cure your bed!
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