After listening to many of my friends talk about their turbulent relationships with their parents, I consider myself very lucky. My mom and I get along very well and when my dad was alive, we got along great too. But I know it’s not like that for everyone. For those of you who are more like my friends than me, let’s discuss a few feng shui cures to support you in this particular relationship:
1. I’ll start off with a more quantum cure. Are you ready? Feng shui your childhood home in your mind. Yes, according to those wacky quantum physicists out there, everything exists simultaneously (somehow – don’t ask me!) so why not take advantage of that and envision your childhood home as perfectly feng shuied as possible. If you are new to feng shui and have this particular situation, here are my suggestions:
a. Make your house shape perfectly square or rectangular. A house with chips out of it may be causing relationship-challenging energetic warbles. Do the same for the lot. You can do the exact same thing if you lived in an apartment or other multi-family dwelling – its your imagination – let it rip!
b. Hang a big picture of you and your parents (and if you have siblings or other family members that could use a little energy too, add them in as well.) on the left side of the home in a big, thick wooden frame. Pretend that you all were laughing and having a great time when the picture was taken and that the laughter is interwoven throughout the picture.
c. Add any other feng shui cures that you think are appropriate to this “home of the past.” Read my book for ideas if you aren’t sure what to do here as the possibilities are endless!
2. A slightly less esoteric cure is using the color “saffron orange.” Strategically place the color saffron orange in the home to bring about “healthy boundary” energies if you feel that is necessary. This particular color can be worn or displayed in the environment where family members might gather. I’d say you can put it anywhere, but best to be in eye-shot where gatherings occur.
If you have family members visit and don’t respect your space, try using this color as well. I’d also write down on paper and place all their names in your “helpful people and travel box” ( a metal box placed in the front right-hand side of the home or your room) for added measure. Write it like a thank you note describing how helpful they are in your life now.
If you work at home and have visitors, try posting hours on your home office door (making sure you actually HAVE an office door!) Nothing says “I need ME space and time like a good solid door. An opening, curtain, or a door with glass inserts makes a weaker condition and usually gets you less respect on this front.
As with every feng shui remedy, make the change and then observe and see if you get a shift in your life. You’ll know if you need to do more by the results you get. Give it a good six weeks before judging whether anything has happened for the better – not all the time, but sometimes, good changes are preceded by a little upheaval so be sure to refrain from judging.
Let’s pull the FUN from dysFUNctional and leave the rest behind.